Just for today: Go with the flow.
Don’t will the world to adapt to your life situation…go the other way…and adapt YOU to what’s happening in your world.
Don’t spend countless minutes hoping the rain will stop because to you it’s dreary. It’s fruitless.
Don’t curse the gridlock even if you were supposed to be somewhere an hour ago. Agonizing over it won’t get you there any quicker.
Don’t miss someone so bad that you fixate on the chasm in your chest. Instead…feel the sorrow in that moment…without thinking…and when you’re done…let it go.
Let go of the urgency…even if something is urgent. You’ll perform better.
Forget the Big Picture…if just for today. It will be clearer as a result.
Live in your own skin today…and stop judging the correctness of other people’s actions. It’s their life…let them live it and be there to help them if they ask.
In short…do what you do…be open to twists in the road…and let things happen without thinking so much. I’m not saying do nothing…and stumble around punch drunk from a universe that seems bent on pushing you down.
I’m saying don’t get so caught up in your sad story that you miss the doors that are opening to you. They may not be what you expected…and to walk through them takes guts…but maybe it’s time to have a little faith and sail with the winds of change instead of fighting against them.
A couple of thoughts that may help you go with the flow:
If you don’t think you’re important in your circle…you’re wrong. You’re more necessary than people give you credit for. (Including yourself.)
If you think you’re more important than others in your circle…you’re wrong. That’s a tough pill for many of us to swallow…but take it. (Can you handle that just for today?) I’m happy to debate this if you like.
In either case…if you accept the above opinion your need to prove your worth diminishes…so you can relax…and living this day will come easier for you. So what do you think? Can you let things happen and go with the flow for a whole day?
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Thanks. Needed that one! So easy to judge others, even though you know you shouldn’t…a reminder us very helpful. Why am I worried about orhers’ choices anyway? Especially if they doesn’t impact my life!!
Isn’t that the truth, Angie? I was talking with someone the other day and we were marveling at the way we judge people…and how they judge us. Really…it is your one and only life as far as we know…so you should certainly live it in a way that feels right. But we know what happens…we hold back…do this or don’t do that because of what our friends/family/people that don’t like us will think and say. (And we do it back…though I feel like I’m getting better in that department…)
Thanks for the visit, Angie!
Very helpful and inspirational as always. Thank you
I sincerely hope so, Barbara. I hope you try it…and it helps bring energy into this day…that would be awesome. (I can’t help but think of Chris Farley’s interviews on SNL when I say “that would be awesome.”)
*smiling over here*
Those doors yeah, seems whenever one closes another opens up. The ironic part we are the ones with the keys, so it is all our doing.
I like the part about our equal importance in the circle. Good reminder.
Today, I am definitely going with the flow because I am off work, the sun is shining, the leaves are dancing and I am perceptive of all thoughts and feelings that come my way. So it’s easy for me.
But even when it’s not easy, we always have a choice and key to true freedom.
Acceptance.
Helen…you are so right…we DO have the key don’t we? I never really thought about it like that…and man I think A LOT! (That’s why I’m always telling people not to think too much. I find that when I can let go for even a little while things sort of happen.)
Thanks for that. I’m going to see how that goes. (And of course I’ll share it…I’m funny that way…)
Have a great…”go with the flow” day. You just never know how small things will impact your Thirty Seconds here on earth. (Oh…and I can’t wait to tell you what I’m doing with this. You will need to come to the states for it. Maybe will have a little fund raiser here to pay for your plane ticket!)
Take care….
Sounds good to me!
I am excited to see where this flow is going….
Take care over there.
Andy – Thank you for the reminder! I think this is definitely something that all of us need to be reminded of everyday. Sometimes, it is so hard to just go with the flow. We are always too worried about what our next steps are going to be, or should be, instead of just living for the moment.
Here’s to “going with the flow” and living for right now!
You’re welcome for the reminder, Danielle. (Now I have to remember to remember…)
I appreciate your stopping by…and will talk to you again soon!
I went with it….the flow that is….all day. Now I’m flowing with a glass of wine and soon I’m going to flow up to bed and sleep through the night without interuption. (One can only hope.) I loved it…all of it…Rock on Andy!
Sounds like you had a nice day, Danni. Hmmm…if that’s true…I wonder if you should do the same tomorrow? (And then repeat…) What a way to live. I think the glass of wine is a nice touch
Sleep tight and stay cool…(I don’t know if people say “cool” anymore…but I do. I’m a rebel…)
Thanks for the reminder Andy! “Going with the flow” is becoming something very hard lately… But I’ll keep trying!
Keep smiling
Ev
I know it’s hard sometimes…but I can’t help but think that’s the best time to just let go. Know what I mean? I don’t like the hard times at all…
I keep thinking I should put up a little TS Forum or Social Network (Members Only…) where people can just “put it out there” for each other. Don’t know that I’ll do it…but maybe it’s just the boost we all need sometimes. (I feel like Facebook users feel the need to be happy or something. This would be safer…)
Thanks, Ev…you keep smiling too!
A
Great one as always. I like your “thoughts” section because it reminded me of something that I learned a long time ago, but still struggle to practice, and that is that it’s almost conceit in a way to assume everything is about us! That if someone is mad it must be about us, or if someone looks at me what are they thinking about me, if someone is whispering it must be about me. How can I always think that everyone elses world revolves around me like that. I’m NOT that important. I mean I am I believe but not in that way. Everyone has their own shit to deal with and most of the time it may not involve me at all even when I think it does.
Go with the flow? A GREAT conception but yet again something very tough to accomplish. But there is so much power behind those words and I believe them NOW to only practice them. Take care bud. Keep up the words!
Hey Ann…you ARE important…we all are. That’s kind of my point. We all do that don’t we? Think the world is spinning around us and our problems. The thing is…everyone has problems…and we should recognize that.
Practicing “go with the flow”…same with me. It’s hard a lot of the time. (OK…most of the time…) but I remember to let go…things start to happen…and I almost get happy. Of course I inject my brain in there again…and the happiness turns into wanting more…which brings tension…anxiousness…all those great things. That’s when I need to chill again…and let stuff happen…
Thanks so much for reading the way you do, Ann. I appreciate it. (And I hope very much that it helps you live your “thirty seconds” just a little better.)
Andy – In 12 Step programs this is called – Living LIfe on LIfe’s Terms” and it is truly one of the most important things an addict – or anyone for that matter needs to focus on to really live. Great post.
Thanks for sharing that, Kirk. Funny how we often come to the same conclusion about things isn’t it? Really…thanks for reading.