Our Thirty Seconds is a journey on which we are both passenger and pilot. We make hopeful choices every moment of every day, some more noteworthy than others. Ultimately these choices fill our Thirty Seconds...

I didn’t grieve.  I spent this past year avoiding sadness…attending to stuff and people instead.  I wrote a bunch…formed new friendships…lost others…found my heart and lost it again.  I thought I discovered the fast track through grieving (I hate that word) but I found out I’m not special at all.  I’m on my knees again…feeling [...]

Please indulge me for a little while.  So much of what I write and share is self-indulgent BS that ends with some sort of lesson.  I don’t think this will be one of them.  I can’t put it any simpler than to say that I miss Laura more today than at any other time since [...]

I do not wish to offend.
This has been bugging me for a long time.  The idea that someone “lost” their battle with cancer.  In this case it’s not someone…it’s Laura.  She didn’t lose…and I resent it when someone says that to me.  I understand where that comes from because people don’t mean it in any [...]

I’m sitting next to Laura’s grave site…writing on this beautiful, balmy, billowy Sunday afternoon.  I’m sort of proud of her spot because it was one of the first decisions I made by myself after she was gone and I know she’d approve.  It’s under the canopy of a majestic oak tree so it’s almost romantic [...]

I thought about writing some Mother’s Day message here…but I decided that we had to go through it on our own…without an inside peek.  What used to be cathartic is now looking self-absorbed…and honestly there isn’t a single thing I’ve written that comes even close to the real thing.  Loss and grief can only be [...]